Helena Nista – Masturbation Coaching
Infusing self-touch with more depth, pleasure and passion
- Would you like to train your body to experience expanded and deeply nurturing sex – anytime and anywhere?
- Do you want to deepen your body’s capacity for mind-blowing pleasure, toe-curling orgasms and fulfilling intimacy?
- Are you ready to learn what your body truly desires in bed and how to get it every time?
Masturbation Coaching is a fairly new modality offered by sex coaches and sex therapists all over the world. It’s extremely powerful because healthy and nurturing self-touch, self-touch that is free of shame and dogma, will prepare your body for a lifetime of great sex and amazing pleasure.
A lot of people have been shamed for pleasuring themselves at some point of their lives and have since developed very limited, shame-based masturbation practices. This kind of self-touch is not only reducing the amount of pleasure you can feel in the moment. It can also lead to sexual issues and difficulties throughout your life.
After completing this course, you will:
- Become extremely familiar with your pleasure anatomy and all your erogenous zones
- Learn to expand your orgasms from head to toe
- Start experiencing completely new types of orgasm
- Experience sex and intimacy which is deep, sacred and meaningful
- Re-sensitize your body to experience MUCH more pleasure
- Heal toxic beliefs and patterns related to your sex life
- Create more sensuality and joy in your eroticism
- Become more charismatic and magnetic to other people
- And much more!
When I teach my clients how to have great sex, I talk a lot about the need to self-touch and to explore one’s body. This is because a close and intimate relationship with your own sexuality is crucial for a healthy and fulfilling enjoyment of touch with other people.
A lot of people seem to think that self-touch is only reserved for people who are lonely and unable to be in a relationship. There’s a huge taboo surrounding self-pleasure as we seem to think that partnered sex is a ‘better’ or ‘higher’ form of intimate pleasure.
Well, this is simply not true! And I recommended self-touch not as a last resort but as a valid experience for people who also enjoy love-making with their partners. Today I’m going to list just 3 of the many, many reasons why you absolutely should have a joyful, healthy and expanded practice of touching yoursel
3 powerful reasons to self-pleasure regularly:
The better you know your body, erogenous zones and your pleasure potential, the better you can guide your partner to pleasure you. Unfortunately, in our society most people don’t actually know what they want in bed and hence, are unable to ask for it. We are all different and we all have different needs and desires. These needs and desires can even change daily which can be very confusing to our partners, particularly if we don’t understand them ourselves.
Once we get to know our own bodies intimately, we can support each other in exploring our sensuality and pleasure. Because it’s much better to give each other 5 minutes of what we really, really want than 30 minutes of what we THINK the other person wants.
2/ Pleasure training
Our bodies learn pleasure and can get better and better at it in the same way that your muscles get stronger and stronger as you keep going to the gym. Self-pleasuring is a wonderful way to teach your body how to feel sexual pleasure and to train and condition yourself for a lifetime of orgasmic bliss and ecstasy. Self-touch also allows us to overcome limiting beliefs, shame and guilt about our bodies. Touching yourself slowly, mindfully, giving yourself a loving full-body massage will re-sensitize your skin and help you develop a deeper connection with your physical sensations and your erotic self.
Plus something that not many people are aware of – nobody can give you an orgasm, they can only support you in having one. Whether you orgasm or not, depends on you only – your level of sensitivity, of connection with your body and any limiting beliefs in your head that might be inhibiting your orgasmic ability.
3/ It will make you happy
Yes, as simple as that – pleasure makes us happy, relaxed and content. Awakening our sexual energy and feeling that deeply vibrant, ecstatic force flowing and dancing through our bodies charges us, energizes us and nurtures our bodies.
Orgasms cause a huge release of pleasure hormones and neurotransmitters that flood our system giving us more satisfaction, confidence and general wellbeing.
Can you relate to this?
When I was 20, I met my first long-term partner. I was a catholic girl and a virgin. He was the same age but much more experienced than me. After 3 months of dating, he introduced me to sex. After another 3 months, he introduced me to masturbation.
It was a very confusing experience for me. One day, we were playing in bed together and then he suddenly placed my hand on top of my genitals. After that he left the room. I was left alone, uncertain how to proceed. I tried stroking and rubbing myself but nothing I did actually felt too good so I gave up. Plus I was experiencing shame and embarrassment which were not helping at all!
After that, I didn’t re-visit self-pleasuring until years later. And when I think back of that 20-year old me now, I truly wish that I had received back then any form of sexual education or support. A woman who regularly touches her body, who knows where her pleasure zones are, that woman is not only activated and confident in her own eroticism. That woman is also deeply attractive to men around her because she is whole, because she incorporates her sexuality into her being in a way that is healthy, natural and beautiful.
Unfortunately for me, I was neither of these things in my 20s. And because I was stripped of my sexual power, I kept attracting men who were dominating and abusing me. This had led to many years of suffering and frustration that took me a long time to heal later on in life.
And the sad truth is that I wasn’t the only person deeply lacking in knowledge and skill in the bedroom. I have since come across thousands of men and women who suffered in one way or another in their sexual lives. Lack of open conversation about sex and self-touch can lead to issues and difficulties that are extremely common these days. Premature ejaculation, erectile difficulty, porn addiction, painful sex, difficulty orgasming, difficulty experiencing pleasure in bed, low libido, high libido or inhibitions in bed are just a few that keep coming up most often in my sessions.
My deep desire and passion is to bring these topics back up into the public attention and to re-establish sexuality and self-touch as natural and healthy aspects of human nature. One of my students recently wrote to me something truly beautiful:
I’d like to witness the day, which is sure to come, when saying, “I’m staying in tonight to self-pleasure,” is as socially acceptable as, “I’m going to the gym / yoga class / shopping…”